Question #140: Have you ever let someone win an argument even if you knew you were right? If so, who?
I’m not going to name names here. But … have you ever been married? Because that’s one of the secrets to staying married.
There are more important things in life than simply being right, or trying to convince how others are wrong.
Communicating in relationships shouldn’t be about winning or losing. I like to think it’s more important to be heard, and understood, and to make the other person feel heard and understood, too, even if both parties are completely at odds.
Admittedly, this is far easier said than done. Sometimes, it’s enough to just agree to disagree, and move on. Other times, there are decisions that need to be made, a direction that needs to be taken as a family, and when there are two differing opinions, things can get hairy.
That’s why compromise is important. Arguing and debating a point shouldn’t be about competition, but moving forward, and sometimes, it’s okay to put down the armor, shut the mouth and turn off Google (because the facts are RIGHT THERE, the correct answer is literally TWO CLICKS AWAY) … and just listen.
And if there’s no risk to our lives and safety, why not trust that the other person’s intentions are good … and that all will work out in the end?
And if it doesn’t?
Then we can always revert … and just go along with what I was thinking in the first place.
Or check Google.